London Embodied Play Fighting – Advanced weekend edition

This evening is intended for those with prior experience of facilitated play fighting and conscious sexuality spaces. If you’d like to gain experience in play fighting, please join us for the next regular play fighting workshop in London or Brighton.

• It will be held and facilitated by Roy Graff with support from an experienced assisting team.

If you qualify, you'll get a link to book.

The extended play fighting workshop includes

• Arriving, focusing, consent and warm up practices

• 1.5-2 hours facilitated play fighting

About 2 hours of free flow play and connection

All consensual interactions that abide by the 4 core agreements are fine. The space is body positive, sex positive, kink and queer inclusive.

• Confidentiality: Outside of the event, please refrain from identifying anyone else who you have met there when sharing your experiences, unless you have explicit consent. You may talk about what the facilitators share and identify them.

• Sovereignty: Notice what you need to step in, and step out of engagement and interaction. Try to invite a beginner’s mind, embrace discomfort and give yourself time and space to notice its impact on you. Ask for what you need and be explicit in your agreements around touch and sexuality, including safer sex practices.

• Consent: Move away from what you don’t want, and towards an authentic, full body yes. Practice empathetic connection to be aware of your own boundaries and the boundaries/limits of others. Give others time and space to consider any request you make of them, and receive a ‘no’ with grace and gratitude. Remember you are empowered to pause or stop any interaction when you feel unsure if it is the right thing for you at the moment.

• Participation: Everything we facilitate is an invitation. The most important experience of the workshop isn’t to take part in all activities, but to make the choice in the moment that best aligns with your truth, check-in with yourself and give yourself permission to change your mind, at any time.

Safety

This a summary of the safety protocol that we explain and practice each session prior to play-fighting.

• Universal safety rules and call-outs when we see a safety breach:

• Neck: no choke-holds (even those that may be accepted in wrestling & martial arts). No interaction above the neck (general wrestling rules).

• Knee: always keeping one knee on the ground, to keep the centre of gravity low (avoids injuries to ankles).

• Space: Those sitting around the circle can call out when the sparring people come too close to them.

• Ways of checking-in or pausing a fight due to concern

• Check*: calling this is a reminder for the play-fighters to do a mental check-in, coming momentarily from body to mind to ensure they are comfortable with the situation. Can be used when a watcher has a general concern.

• Pause: Can be called by anyone for a concern about boundary violation or safety risk.

• Stop/Red: Can be called by anyone for a concern about boundary violation or safety risk.

• Double tap the floor: by a play fighter who is non-verbal.

• Energy regulation to prevent overwhelm or getting carried away with the excitement and adrenaline rush

• Self check-in during warmup, bringing awareness to your present energy levels.

• Opening ritual and communicating personal boundaries before the play fight.

• Closing ritual and co-regulation / down-regulation after the round.

Tiered Pricing

• Generous £80

• Regular £65

• Reduced £50

Concession tickets are available on request.

Location: Peckham, SE London (address shared after booking).

About the facilitator: Roy

Roy first discovered play fighting at a burning man regional event in Europe in 2018. After taking part in several workshops, he recognised the potential of this practice to help people become more embodied, to learn about their own boundaries and improve their non-verbal communication and empathetic listening to others. The range of expressions people create in play fighting is truly incredible and extremely imaginative. Roy’s further training in Psychotherapy, Radical Honesty, Non-Violent Communication and Wheel of Consent all serve to inform the way he constructs the practices and flow of the workshops. He has been a core member of the team running Temples of Eros since 2023.

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